I was in a rut, I won’t lie. I have been running around like crazy lately and I just didn’t know what to write about this week. But then I had a great moment, a moment of huge ephiny! What is one of the coolest things I can write about? Entrepreneurship! People who are starting or have long term been starting their own business! So to start out this little exploration I contacted a Domme to tell me all about her business! To check out her site click here.
Olivia Rose is a Domme (will define later in the interview!) from the west coast that recently moved to the Pittsburgh area. She does modeling as well as one on one sessions with clients. She is very open about her job and she is super excited to share what she does!
Question One: What is BDSM and What is a Domme?
A domme is a dominatrix, a female dominate person. BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism. Most people who engage with BDSM consider it a lifestyle foremost, the idea of feeling pleasure through pain. There is a blend between lifestyle and professional, which is a money gain. Most people see it as pretty taboo life or 50 Shades of Grey which is really just abuse.
Question Two: How did you get into BDSM and what is your typical day like?
So I was always interested in BDSM in my personal life but I didn’t realize until 12 years ago that I could make money at it until I walked into a photoshoot and I was in a dungeon setting. I was really connecting to the set when someone said to me, “You know you can make BDSM into a living right?” Then the art director gave me a list of people she had worked with, producers and such, and told me to talk to them and get work from there.
My daily life is different depending on the day. Some days I do online work, so over Skype and camming to people. I do domination over the phone. Some days I go to a location in street clothes and someone worships my feet in socks, which is a very easy day because I can work in yoga pants. Other days I get dressed up in leather and outfits that are shown more on TV. It just depends, I am always busy and always moving.
Question Three: What is your favorite part about what you do?
I like connecting to people who wouldn’t be able to get what they need from a regular, non-kinky relationship. I really like all the honesty and being able to connect in a nonjudgemental way to, that way everyone feels comfortable.
Question Four: Who is your typical client?
So an in person client is usually a mid thirties to forties white male. They tend to be professionals or people in positions of power who want to hand over control for an hour or two. When it comes to my online clients it can be anyone, there is a level of mystery here because the cams are normally one way, so they can see me but I can’t see them.
Question Five: What advice would you give to people who want to enter the BDSM community but have no idea where to start?
A great place to start is a site called Fetlife. It is like Facebook for kinky people. There are different groups to talk to and people who like the same things. It is really great to realize that you are not alone and there are other people who are into the same things that you are. Use the internet to your advantage. There are also group meetups (local munches) where you can meet like-minded people.
Last Minute Comments!
Everyone has the opportunity to connect with people and realize that you are not alone.
After this call, I would like to say I feel much more informed about the BDSM community and I hope that you feel more informed after this too! It is a diverse community and I would like to say that this interview probably didn’t even hit a large section of BDSM Lifestyle. I want this to be a good place for anyone reading to start and be encouraged to find out more on your own. Any questions or comments feel free to put them in the comments section.
Thank you everyone for reading!
Mark Oliver Wizard Goldstein